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I have a deep, dark confession to make.

I’m obsessed with gossip blogs. I love reading snarky comments about celebrities. I love going onto TMZ and reading little quips about Justin Bieber supposedly being an ass, Charlie Sheen supposedly going crazy, and all the celebrities in between. I love the critiques on celebrities dresses at awards shows. And I love to hear the comments about what Jennifer Lawrence said on the red carpet. (By the way, I adore her)

But there is a shift. Is it because I am getting older? Am I (finally) growing up? Or am I seeing what these gossip sites are truly about? I’ve become jaded to the internet. I’ve become annoyed with social media, especially Facebook. I don’t like how everything is so close to our fingertips. It is all right there. Sometimes it takes a a bit of research but not much. I don’t find the internet as a whole to be bad, I love following blogs, I love being able to read the news from around the world, and sites like Trip Advisor are a godsend when planning a trip especially when guidebooks are so expensive. I even love Facebook as it is easy for me to keep in touch with family and friends that live elsewhere.

But I feel that a lot of the internet, social media, gossip sites are the bane of our existence. 20 years ago you know what friends and family didn’t talk about? Politics, religion, sex. You know what I see on Facebook on a daily basis? Politics and religion (and sometimes sex). I admit it, I post things occasionally. I have opinions on the Republican party, I definitely have a strong opinion on gay marriage. I have a lot of issues with religion. But I feel like that people are too open now. There is no mystery. There is no wall. I don’t need to know how much a person hates Muslims. I don’t need to know that somebody really hates the idea of gay marriage. And then I think about it, are these people even close friends of mine? When did I see them last? And then I wonder why I am getting so worked up over a very casual acquaintance that I haven’t seen in 10 years? Why do I think I need to comment on their status telling them my opinion? Do they care? No. Or maybe they just care enough so that they know they got a rise out of me.

Gossip sites are truly awful websites and as of 2 weeks ago I quit going on them. Some are funny, some have a bit of snark that is good but some are downright truly evil workings on the internet. I don’t take celebrities quite so seriously but I did enjoy reading about them. But does it make me feel good to see bloggers refer to celebrities as bitches, sluts, assholes? Is it really necessary to call Lena Dunham fat and ugly because she voiced an opinion on something? Is it really necessary to call Jennifer Lawrence an immature bitch because she photo-bombed someone on the red carpet? I realized how truly awful I was for even navigating on these sites, giving these websites a hit all because I thought the comments were funny. And to be honest there is a major shift in these sorts of websites. They used to be funny, some were never downright mean, but now…mean is the new normal I guess. We build people up just to watch them fall. Its truly an awful world we live in sometimes isn’t it?

I need a break from the internet. Or maybe not so much from the internet, maybe more from just social media sites. I quit my gossip blog addiction. Can I quit Facebook next? I don’t know. I consider it a lot and then I don’t do it, I like the idea of being able to keep in contact with people, see their pictures, and some posts I really truly enjoy. I love that my sister-in-law posts pictures of my niece so I can see her growing up in Belgium and being able to talk to my brother without spending so much on phone bills. But sometimes I wonder if its all worth it. Is downsizing the answer? Is it wrong to delete ‘friends’ (or family) that you don’t agree with on the political front? I’ve had conversations about this sort of thing with friends. And some say it’s not a big deal, its ‘just Facebook’. But it’s not just Facebook. Am I to forget that somebody posted a rant against homosexuals? Am I inclined to treat the same as before? Is it better knowing how a person feels via Facebook so that I know what to do in ‘real’ life and exclude them from my life? Or is it better not knowing that family members (or friends) think that your lifestyle is wrong?

Also, how many selfies does one need to post before its too much?

That, my friends, is the real question.